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and it is also normal for us to date more than one person during a period of time.Often it's just not a big deal and the good night kiss is sort of an expected thing... It's totally normal to go on a few dates, then just decide it's not for you.Would you buy a pair of pants without trying them on?Why agree to a relationship when you don't even know the person? would you give your keys of your car to someone you just met? So why would you give the exclusivity of yourself after two dates?The French do not agree with my viewpoint on the subject.
In the States we discuss serious relationships after quite a few dates; kissing, affection or hugging are normal in dating..
In the French culture kissing/affection is considered something big- often shared between boyfriends/girlfriends that are exclusive.
First, it's often rare for two people to go out alone... Second, affection is saved for a 'sure thing'; if kissing is started it's considered as if there's something between the two people and beyond three it's considered like an exclusive thing...
If someone is starting to touch, kiss and text a lot it's a sign that the French person sees you as more than just a 'date' and considers it a 'for sure thing'; as in they really want to be your boyfriend/girlfriend.
A french person will not spend an enormous amount of money, shower you with attention and think it will go no where; also; while they are doing this- be aware they are not doing it to someone else. If you find yourself in the position where it's too serious from their end and you're not in the same place: stop giving affection. Don't go out with them alone more than once a week. express that it's a cultural difference and you enjoy being around them but you are not ready for a relationship. It's rare to have sex and not have it be something.
She didn't understand why one guy was very standoffish and another was incessently texting, and when they were together, non hesitant to show affection.